Potty schooling causes fear not only of parents. More often than not, children regard such a prospect far from a positive side. The whole process takes a lot of time, and in most cases - a week.
From what age to teach the pot
The period of training varies widely. Some begin from early infancy, holding the crumbs over a basin or over a bath. Others are waiting for the moment until the baby himself understands what the pot is for.
At what age to learn, the parents themselves decide. But it is worth remembering that up to 12-18 months, the crumb still does not control the filling of the bladder and intestines, therefore, experts recommend starting just after this period. This is preceded by several factors that should be the main signal that the child is ready:
- The child is able to sit on his own, squat down, get up from the "half-crouch" position.
He is interested in the imitation of adults, the use of the toilet.
- May remain dry for more than 2 hours.
- Do not urinate during daytime sleep.
- It empties the intestine at about the same time.
- Understands the appeal to him about the offer to visit the toilet.
- Can express their needs through babbling, gestures, simplified words.
Often, those parents whose child goes to the pot at 7-10 months are put in the example. They begin to teach almost from birth, holding over a basin. But this is not a true skill. It is caused by a reflex to certain sounds ("writing", "aaaa") or actions (blowing on the genitals, clicking a finger, etc.).
You should not start the process during the so-called "crisis of the first year", which takes about 10-14 months. Some toddlers who “can” go to the pot a year, sharply refuse to do so at a transitional moment. The most suitable is 15-18 months. If you wait for two years, when the baby begins to understand the relationship of things, explanations of parents and control their feelings, then the training will be much faster and without negative emotional overload.
The listed age periods are approximate, as each child is individual. It directly depends on the state of health, the capacity of the baby and other factors.
How to choose the right pot
A large variety of pots in children's stores can be confusing not only the baby, but also an adult. Everyone has their own positives and weaknesses that can play a negative role.
For girls, they usually take a round shape, since in this case it is more convenient for her to move the legs. For boys choose a slightly elongated oval shape. So his opposite legs will be apart, and the penis will not be clamped by the hips. Usually this model is used in kindergartens. If you are going to send the crumbs in the nursery, this option is optimal.
A kind of classic pot. Its basis is a chair with a hole in the middle, where the container is inserted. Maybe with a lid, like an imitation toilet.
Appeared relatively recently. He responds with a melody to hit him with liquid. It pleases the baby. However, this choice is not the best, since it produces a conditioned reflex to the pledged music. Therefore, having heard the same melody in the street, he can wet the panties.
To attract attention and interest, many parents choose a pot in the form of animals or machines. Varieties of them are great, some with additional features like sound or lighting. But this species has a significant drawback. Distracting and staying on it, the crumb worsens his health. Long sitting in this position causes stagnation of blood in the pelvic organs, and may cause inflammation.
This view is very convenient, because at first it can be used as a regular pot, and then, having disassembled, you get a stand for the toilet in the form of a ladder and a small seat on it. It has a small size, compact.
This sample is good because you can take it with you on short trips and walks, including a clinic. When folded, it is a regular flat seat. If necessary, the legs are extended at the bottom, a disposable bag is attached, which is subsequently folded and thrown away. To avoid incidents, before using in public places, practice at home a couple of times so that the child is used.
Although the choice is great, one should start with the simplest models, taking into account the anatomical features of a boy or a girl.
The pot is preferable to buy plastic. Wood and metal are very rare, but they are inconvenient to use for several reasons. Wood has a tendency to collect dirt and microbes in microcracks. The metal is too cold, which can chill the genitals.
Step plan for schooling for 7 days
This type of training is only relevant from 18 months. It takes only a week, but requires sufficient perseverance on the part of parents. In addition, you need to pay lesson all day, so you should get rid of other concerns.
In the morning, change the diapers on the panties. The baby needs to be explained that he is old enough for them. Familiarize yourself with the pot, drawing an analogy with the toilet, which is used by adults. You can demonstrate how you use it. Next should sit down the child on the pot every 30-40 minutes. The main thing is to keep it on it for 2-3 minutes. To do this, use a variety of toys and accessories. But do it without violence, so as not to scare off interest. Crumbs need to get used to their feelings.
Continue to inculcate the skills that the first day. At the same time sitting on the pot increases in time. Also look at the reaction of the baby. As soon as signs of need appear, offer to sit on the pot. Most likely, he will not refuse. But if you do not want, you can use a plastic vessel or a basin. Then again explain the need for the procedure.
If the child dips or stains the pants, do not scold him. We can say that it is unpleasant to be in this form.
The refusal of the pot is not only at home, but also for a walk. Before leaving the house, crush your baby to the toilet. Then go for a walk. You can take the pot with you, but you can not move away from home and, if necessary, return to the toilet.
Usually for this day the child understands the need for a pot and gladly handles his need for it. But parental control is still required, as it can be forgotten during a period of play or entertainment. Also, immediately after waking up, bring to the toilet, as the bladder becomes full during sleep.
5, 6 and 7 days
These days there is a consolidation of the acquired skills. Parents monitor the baby, reminding him of the need to visit the toilet.
With every independent victory in this process, loud praise is needed, with every slip, a silent change of clothes.
Not every child copes with the pot according to this scheme. Some refuse to go on it and continue to write and crap in panties. There is nothing wrong with that. Postpone classes for a while, prepare for the subsequent training.
Dr. Komarovsky technique
The famous doctor Oleg Evgenievich Komarovsky advises starting a schooling not earlier than 2-2.5 years, when the child will be more or less ready for this, both psychologically and physiologically.
First of all, you need to introduce the baby with a pot. Explain what it is for. Plant immediately after sleeping, eating, before walking and after. And just when they understood it was time. In these cases, the most likely success of the case. And then you should praise. But if it turned out to be a miss, you need to remain silent.
At the age of 2 years, the child can take off and wear pants and tights. Therefore, the emphasis is not on the pot itself, but on a sequential process: first the pot is taken, tights, panties are taken off, sits down, does its own thing, gets up, gets well and tells the parents what it has done. This can be turned into an interesting game that the child will like, and he will continue to do it on his own.
Visiting the toilet room should gradually fit into the mode of the day. At the same time a complete abandonment of diapers is not recommended. It is quite possible to use it at night and daytime sleep, walks in cold weather and long trips. But if the child woke up dry, you urgently need to put him on the pot and praise for such an "act."
Some babies immediately prefer the toilet. But this aspect is not so important. In this case, it’s more important to pick up a seat for a little priests and a stand, so that the crumbs will be easier to climb there. In particular, this is a positive option for boys, since it is more convenient to write there. In this case, the example of the Pope, which shows how “real men” do it, helps well.
Features of schooling children of different ages and gender
Teaching a child to the pot from birth requires a lot of time and attention of the mother. It is necessary to monitor the manifestations of the needs of the crumbs: they twist their legs, begin to fidget, etc. Gradually, the mother knows the approximate time intervals. But experts do not approve of such training. They consider this a developed reflex to repetitive actions.
At 12-18 months, schooling can be complicated by the crisis of the first year, when the child begins to recognize himself as a person, and tries to resist all parental teachings. Even if the child has previously mastered such a skill, he may stop sitting on the pot and defend the need for panties. You do not need to scold the little man for this, his psyche is not fully formed and a delicate approach is required.
It is quite another thing when the baby is 2-2.5 years old. At this age, the child understands the parents, the words and explanations addressed to him. In this case, you can talk to him, explain the need to visit the toilet room and maintain hygiene.
But depending on the floor, the success of potty training is not seen. Yes, each child is individual. But just as a boy can begin to use the toilet accessories himself, so the girl can be ahead of him in this difficult task. There is only variation in the choice of a pot, since for boys it is preferable to have a ledge in front so that the "pisyun" does not rise up.
Problems and difficulties
It happens that the schooling took place normally and suddenly, at one moment the child screams and refuses to sit on the pot. The reasons for this may be many. One of them is a cold surface, which created discomfort and discomfort.
Do not force to sit on the pot. Not only does it cause a wild disgust for it, it can also damage health.
The process is best done in a relaxed atmosphere, without harsh sounds and "hurrying." Then he can concentrate.
The crisis of the first year, which was mentioned many times, also becomes a cause of failure ...
Problems may occur for the following reasons:
- The birth of a subsequent child that distracts parents from the ward.
- Changing of the living place.
- Negative family environment.
- Various diseases and ailments.
- The crisis of three years associated with the manifestation of independence and disobedience.
- Censures, screams.
- Other stressful situations.
Often it happens that the mother tries to teach the crumbs to the pot in the following way - he pees, and she abruptly grabs him and sits on the pot. It scares the child and causes a negative reaction.
To teach the child to the pot there are some useful tips, adhering to which you can succeed.
- It is best to start in the warm season to reduce the likelihood of colds.
- Praise for any luck and keep quiet when you make a mistake.
- In order not to be afraid of disturbing order, carpets are removed from the floors, oilcloth creeps to the beds and sofas.
- Do not do two things at the same time: sitting on a pot and watching TV or eating.
- The child must be healthy and in a good mood.
- Do not hold it by force.
- Remove diapers for the daytime and store enough rags to wipe the puddles behind it.
- During the period of study is better to use soft panties or pants, which are easily removed.
- Naked not to leave, so that the crumb got used to the process of removing clothes.
- Do not create from the natural process a kind of ritual, accompanied by certain moments. This may contribute to a reflex response at the most inopportune moment.
- The first time you need to remind the child about the need to visit the toilet.
Schooling a child in a pot is a long-term process that requires a big return from parents. You need to prepare yourself morally, realizing that success will not come instantly. No need to look at and level with other children who "themselves go to the pot since 6 months". Your child is unique and his ability will come at the right time.